As a spiritual advisor I often receive questions regarding love, relationships, soul mates, etc. This should come as no surprise given the fact that most people have hopes and ambitions of finding a life partner. What most people do not realize and what I try to convey is that we all come into this life with predisposed inclinations toward a particular kind of relationship and partner. This is most evident by the examination of one’s natal chart. The relationship patterns indicated in the chart are hard-wired into the psyche and these patterns will manifest in some way through the outside world. For instance, a person born with their Venus in tight square, opposition, quincunx or sesquisquare with Uranus will more often than not have a difficult time forming a long-term commitment (The conjunction can also produce this effect in some people as well). On the other hand, it may be very easy for this same person to enter into many short-term relationships or flings. In fact, the latter may certainly contribute to the former since the native when in a committed relationship will often be tempted to stray through the ease of forming of new friendships and associations. Men in particular will have a very difficult time with monogamy and commitment with Venus in challenging aspect to Uranus for it is too easy for them to meet new lovers. Now if the Venus/Uranus native is determined to have a long-term commitment the vibration of this aspect will still be present and it is likely to manifest in one or more of the following ways:
- Great compromises to be made in the name of maintaining one or both of the partners’ level of independence and individuality.
- Being in a very unique or unconventional relationship/marriage such as marrying cousins or a polyamorous union.
- A relationship that is fraught with sudden upsets, break ups and a great deal of unpredictability yet somehow the couple manages to stay together long-term.
- A sexless or emotionally vapid marriage/partnership
- A marriage or partnership that results in a total upheaval of one’s life–whether for good or bad.
Venus in challenging aspect to Uranus applies to Synastry/Compatibility charts as well and the dynamic may even be more pronounced depending on the tightness of the aspect. A tight opposition between one partner’s Venus and the other’s Uranus for instance can indicate a short romance that begins with a bang and comes to a sudden halt. Now this Venus/Uranus configuration may be able to be overcome entirely once the native achieves spiritual evolution or at least a full understanding of their Divinely-inspired purpose. However, this is still quite rare even in this present day. Most people go through life seeking a fulfilling relationship not being aware of the inherent challenges and limitations unique to their fate. Venus in challenging aspect to Uranus or any aspect for that matter is the Fate, Destiny is what you choose to do with those aspects. Thus, Destiny can be altered at any time, albeit within the parameters of Fate (natal chart aspects).
It would seem that most people do not want to do the work that comes along with creating your Destiny as far as relationships are concerned. Most people just want to step into a “turn-key” relationship. This is a relationship that is ready-made that requires little to no effort. Only certain people will be afforded the luxury of a turn-key relationship. Yes, some people are just lucky in love or you can view it as an accumulation of good relationship karma. These fortunate folks establish the model that others aspire to. You can also call the turn-key relationship a “fairytale romance”. When people fall short of achieving this turn-key relationship, they become dejected not realizing that they’ve been given a different kind of Fate.
This brings me back to the readings I do for people. I always try to help my clients understand the underlying reasons for why they face such hardship in love and relationships. I take it back to the source which in my opinion is the natal chart. I don’t just address the symptoms. I get down to the root cause and this often leads me to the topic of past lives/reincarnation. Knowledge of Self is paramount when it comes to understanding why we are drawn to certain types of people and certain kinds of relationships. For those who are blessed with the ease of a turn-key relationship, more power to you. For the rest of us, relationships may be the process by which we achieve self-discovery and self-actualization through the mirror that is one’s significant other.