Venus in Aquarius: Kaleidoscopic Love

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Venus is currently soaring through Aquarius. Venus in Aquarius is an edgy, cool, progressive female who prefers solid friendship to a suffocating committed relationship. This is not to say that Aquarian Venus is noncommittal, she just doesn’t want it to feel that way. She is fiercely independent and prone to rebellion if faced with too much restriction. The best way to keep Venus in Aquarius happy is to give her plenty of autonomy to make changes at a moment’s notice and to respect the fact that she will have a throng of friends and admirers–both male and female. It’s no sense harboring feelings of jealousy when it comes to Venus in Aquarius. She’s a natural magnet when it comes to making new acquaintances and she’s quite the social butterfly. Her social circle is akin to a kaleidoscope; full of colorful and dynamic types.

In a marriage or long-term commitment Venus in Aquarius has a need to run the show. A lot of times it is either her way or no way. The good thing is Venus in Aquarius tends to attract the kind of partners who have no problem submitting to her indomitable will. Any partner of Aquarian Venus will also need to wear a thick skin since she won’t hesitate to tell you the hardcore truth. She’s not emotionally needy and she’s not really concerned with the sentimental. Sometimes Venus in Aquarius may become so uncomfortable with her emotions that she resorts to humor or goof ball antics to keep the atmosphere light and carefree. She is not one for a lot of mushy doting or displays of affection. What she wants is sincerity and authenticity. Venus in Aquarius does however have a huge sense of entitlement and does not do well with the word “No” when she is on the receiving end. If it’s something that she wants and her partner is not providing it, she will take a circuitous route to get it. Loyalty is another weakness of Aquarian Venus. This is due to her shunning of systems of hierarchy and tradition. Don’t expect her to put you or anyone else on a pedestal. She believes that her friends deserve just as much time and attention as her partner/spouse.

Sexually, Aquarius is the sign of the freak, so Venus in this sign may have various tricks up her sleeve. The vibrator and other sex toys are very Venus in Aquarius for instance. Since Aquarian Venus is very tolerant of that which deviates from the norm, she is prone to bisexuality, homosexuality, and entering poly-amorous unions. Even if her sexual orientation is bone-straight, she will most likely be very accepting of alternative lifestyles.

In terms of personal style, Venus in Aquarius prefers looks that are cutting edge, progressive and even futuristic. She doesn’t follow trends, she is a trendsetter. She is attracted to bright colors and pastels, abstract patterns, and strategically placed rips and tears. For instance fashion trends such a ripped and acid wash jeans, torn tees, platform shoes, and unisex clothing are the epitome of Venus in Aquarius. She likes to be radically different than the masses and her appearance may even reveal her activist nature. PETA and the whole “I’d rather go naked than wear fur” campaign is certainly a Venus in Aquarius construct. Venus in Aquarius is drawn to technological gadgets that  enhance beauty such as state of the art make up tools. She will frequent Sephora, Ulta and the like to keep her arsenal of beauty implements well stocked. She sees makeup as a means of physical evolution. When it comes to hairstyles Venus in Aquarius can go through frequent changes. She is likely to dye her hair on a whim and she is drawn to colors such as platinum blond or maybe even a funky blue. Venus in Aquarius likes short, androgynous hair cuts, spiky tresses and asymmetrical coifs. The shaving one side of the head trend? Yes, that’s Aquarian Venus.

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~Rahbinah

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Relationships: Fate, Destiny and Astrological Aspects

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As a spiritual advisor I often receive questions regarding love, relationships, soul mates, etc. This should come as no surprise given the fact that most people have hopes and ambitions of finding a life partner. What most people do not realize and what I try to convey is that we all come into this life with predisposed inclinations toward a particular kind of relationship and partner. This is most evident by the examination of one’s natal chart. The relationship patterns indicated in the chart are hard-wired into the psyche and these patterns will manifest in some way through the outside world. For instance, a person born with their Venus in tight square, opposition, quincunx or sesquisquare with Uranus will more often than not have a difficult time forming a long-term commitment (The conjunction can also produce this effect in some people as well). On the other hand, it may be very easy for this same person to enter into many short-term relationships or flings. In fact, the latter may certainly contribute to the former since the native when in a committed relationship will often be tempted to stray through the ease of forming of new friendships and associations. Men in particular will have a very difficult time with monogamy and commitment with Venus in challenging aspect to Uranus for it is too easy for them to meet new lovers. Now if the Venus/Uranus native is determined to have a long-term commitment the vibration of this aspect will still be present and it is likely to manifest in one or more of the following ways:

  • Great compromises to be made in the name of maintaining one or both of the partners’ level of independence and individuality.
  • Being in a very unique or unconventional relationship/marriage such as marrying cousins or a polyamorous union.
  • A relationship that is fraught with sudden upsets, break ups and a great deal of unpredictability yet somehow the couple manages to stay together long-term.
  • A sexless or emotionally vapid marriage/partnership
  • A marriage or partnership that results in a total upheaval of one’s life–whether for good or bad.

Venus in challenging aspect to Uranus applies to Synastry/Compatibility charts as well and the dynamic may even be more pronounced depending on the tightness of the aspect. A tight opposition between one partner’s Venus and the other’s Uranus for instance can indicate a short romance that begins with a bang and comes to a sudden halt. Now this Venus/Uranus configuration may be able to be overcome entirely once the native achieves spiritual evolution or at least a full understanding of their Divinely-inspired purpose. However, this is still quite rare even in this present day. Most people go through life seeking a fulfilling relationship not being aware of the inherent challenges and limitations unique to their fate. Venus in challenging aspect to Uranus or any aspect for that matter is the Fate, Destiny is what you choose to do with those aspects. Thus, Destiny can be altered at any time, albeit within the parameters of Fate (natal chart aspects).

It would seem that most people do not want to do the work that comes along with creating your Destiny as far as relationships are concerned. Most people just want to step into a “turn-key” relationship. This is a relationship that is ready-made that requires little to no effort. Only certain people will be afforded the luxury of a turn-key relationship. Yes, some people are just lucky in love or you can view it as an accumulation of good relationship karma. These fortunate folks establish the model that others aspire to. You can also call the turn-key relationship a “fairytale romance”. When people fall short of achieving this turn-key relationship, they become dejected not realizing that they’ve been given a different kind of Fate.

This brings me back to the readings I do for people. I always try to help my clients understand the underlying reasons for why they face such hardship in love and relationships. I take it back to the source which in my opinion is the natal chart. I don’t just address the symptoms. I get down to the root cause and this often leads me to the topic of past lives/reincarnation. Knowledge of Self is paramount when it comes to understanding why we are drawn to certain types of people and certain kinds of relationships. For those who are blessed with the ease of a turn-key relationship, more power to you. For the rest of us, relationships may be the process by which we achieve self-discovery and self-actualization through the mirror that is one’s significant other.

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Thank You Falettinme Be Mice Elf Always

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I figured that I ought to write something for the month of January and since it’s the 31st I really don’t have much choice do I? I’m going to keep it brief because I have to ease back into writing.

Nowadays we have some fairly decent role models–if you know where to look. Role models are always a good thing. It’s good to have someone more accomplished and experienced to look up to. However, modeling yourself after one of your predecessors can have its drawbacks. For instance, the more you model someone, the less original you become. The more you follow someone the less of a chance you have to become a leader. Role models are definitely needed in society, but where does the influence of the role model end and your own self-determination begin? When and how do we get to break the mold and become avant garde or simply unprecedented? Is there even any more originality left within the creative centers of humanity? Have we all become mindless sycophants who hang on every word of those we place upon a pedestal?

I have my share of role models, but I also try to create my own brand of greatness. In terms of my spiritual advising practice there are not too many reputable folks who could really point me in the right direction–business wise that is. Sure, I could mimic some of the more popular spiritual/metaphysical/astrological blogs and websites, but there is something about the overt sense of commercialism that gives me cause to pause. Just the other day I received some advice regarding the aesthetics and content of my blog. I appreciated the feedback, but at the same time I felt a strong urge to resist conforming to the whole online marketing ettiquette spiel. “Do this, don’t do that, say this, not that”. All of these guidelines and unspoken rules regarding proper Internet protocol just rubs me the wrong way. My aim is to be free, to be independent of the many oppressive ties that bind (shout out to my Uranus/Midheaven conjunction). I thought the Internet was the land of the free and the home of the brave? I guess I was sadly mistaken. Of course I understand that people have proven systems that have increased their bottom line on the Internet, but if I did everything according to these systems, I would feel a bit disingenous. That’s just not me. I am a non-conformist to the max. Sue me. I want to be known for my stellar reputation, not for how bright and sparkly my website or blog is. I am also not one of your “feel good all the time” advisors. Hey, I have bad days just like everyone else. I am also not the run of the mill. I realize that a certain type of individual will love me, and another type may not like who I am. If I do what’s right in my heart, that’s really all that matters. When it comes to matters of the heart, no role model is needed.

So even when it comes to online marketing, I am going to just be myself. I figure that if I stay true to who I am, the people who are destined to be my clients will show up regardless.