Before we reach the end of Scorpio season, I thought it would be fitting to write a blog post on the topic of infidelity; Scorpio being the chief sign of the cheater. Of course, this does not mean that each and every person born under this sign will cheat. Other zodiac signs like Gemini, Sagittarius and Aquarius for that matter are also prone to infidelity and no sign is really exempt. The propensity for infidelity depends on various factors of the natal (birth) chart, but this post is about Scorpio, the ruler of forbidden love/lust.
With that being said, most people with strong Scorpion energy will find themselves in situations where infidelity is either an opportunity or threat at some point in their lives. Why Scorpio? Well, for one, Scorpio is a sexual sign (the orgiastic and reproductive side of sex) and in terms of anatomy, Scorpio rules the genitals and anus. Scorpio is a water sign, thus it is more emotional than rational. Rarely is the decision to put one’s marriage at risk through infidelity a rational one. Water naturally lacks boundaries and it likes to merge. This water sign has a strong need to form bonds with others. Scorpio is also a very social sign for it represents the exchange of power that takes place when interacting with others. Scorpio craves this power dynamic and it is one of the signs that will truly suffer from loneliness and isolation. The source of power could be financial, sexual, emotional, or therapeutic. Scorpio’s sociable nature provides many opportunities for infidelity. Since Scorpio also deals with joint finances within a marriage, infidelity often comes to light with the balancing of accounts. Scorpio also deals with that which is hidden, underground, and taboo. Part of Scorpio’s aim is to the dip into the forbidden waters of the psyche in order to explore the soul in totality and this is why this sign is often tempted to do wrong.
I’ve noticed in the course of my astrological practice that women with Moon in Scorpio are prone to attract married men. This is also true for women with Venus or Mars in Scorpio, albeit to a lesser degree. Even with just the Sun residing in Scorpio there is often a nagging temptation to engage in infidelity at some point in the marriage. If this urge is suppressed, there’s a good chance that it will be projected onto the partner. The partner ends up cheating which then gives the Scorpio license to even the score.
Scorpio is a heavy sign and like Sagittarius, the word “many” should come to mind. You can view Pluto, modern ruler of Scorpio in the same light. When I see a strong Scorpion and/or Plutonian influence in a person’s chart, I know that there’s a good chance that issues with infidelity will be present. There will be many opportunities to get intimate with others. I stress the word opportunities since the person may never act on them. As stated previously, various factors of the natal chart need to be taken into account in order to determine the likelihood of an adulterous union.
Another reason why Scorpio is the ruler of infidelity is its themes of death and transformation. For instance, infidelity is one of the best ways to kill an unhealthy relationship. It can be the final nail in the coffin. Infidelity can be the necessary catalyst for one to break free and become reborn. Infidelity brings the pain of a scorpion’s sting and enough pain will cause anyone to try to eliminate the source. Extricating oneself from an abusive relationship may become easier once the partner’s hidden life and transgressions are brought to the surface. Through our dealings with Scorpio we are transformed and sometimes even reborn. Through Scorpio we are stripped bare and are shown what lies at the core of our being. This is the essence of this deep water sign and it’s also why being on the receiving end of infidelity feels so soul crushing.
Scorpio brings your deeply ingrained psychological muck to the surface in order to provoke necessary psychoanalysis and transformation of the emotional body. The problem is, most people do not know how to properly and expeditiously dispose of the psycho slop when it surfaces. The dark side of Scorpio manifests as a result: revenge, envy, jealousy, brooding, power plays, manipulation, abuse, snooping, stalking, obsession, unwanted pregnancy, abortion, cheating, custody wars, financial disputes, and at worst, criminal activities. To get a Cliff Notes version of the dark side of Scorpio just watch the crime documentary series”Snapped”.
The only way to channel this dark energy when the bug of infidelity invades your sacred space is placing total devotion to a higher cause–something Scorpio does rather well. Some do it through spirituality or religion; others through career, charitable causes, social activities, etc. This is when one is operating through the Eagle facet of Scorpio. Ideally, a Scorpion’s life should have deeper meaning beyond the benefits derived from personal relationships. Scorpio needs to be 5-dimensional to be able to soar above the temptation of lust. When Scorpio lacks a connection to the Higher Self, the temptation to engage in the taboo including infidelity will be very strong and at times irresistible. This is why when Scorpio finds religion or spirituality, he becomes a hardcore devotee. It helps to keep the demons at bay. And yes, Scorpio rules the demonic realm–that 4th dimension/astral plane that is right outside of our waking consciousness. But that’s for another blog. The saying “the devil made me do it” must have been invented by a Scorpio.
The root word of Infidelity is INFIDEL. According to Merriam Webster’s Dictionary an infidel is
: a person who does not believe in a religion that someone regards as the true religion.
Here’s the definition of infidelity:
a : unfaithfulness to a moral obligation : disloyalty
b : the act or fact of having a romantic or sexual relationship with someone other than one’s husband, wife, or partner.
It’s interesting how this word has been used to describe when a partner is unfaithful. Marriage is in fact a religious institution where values such as faith, devotion, and honor are upheld; sacred vows are taken. Perhaps this is why so many people find infidelity to be unforgivable–it’s basically a form of blasphemy where a union once considered sacred gets turned on its head. The sacred bond is mocked, desecrated and devalued.
One of Scorpio’s best attributes is provocation. Scorpio provokes action in others. Scorpio provokes others to change and emerge from stagnant and stale conditions. Victims of infidelity are often provoked to engage in psychoanalysis whether via therapy or D.I.Y. techniques. For some, infidelity is a necessary evil for the evolution of the soul. Through infidelity, Scorpio provokes healing at the soul level. Good medicine is often bitter going down and Scorpion venom is no exception.